Interfering Neurotic

Emotionally Elegant

Being emotional is often synonymous with instability, drama and difficulty. How might we create a new narrative for emotionality that doesn't leave us branded as walking disasters?
Coming up, we dive into:
Ash’s mindfulness spa experiment and how marathon training is like a meditation retreat
People’s discomfort with your discomfort and the agony of being reminded “You Got This”
Becoming emotionally bilingual with a partner whose love language involves spreadsheets
Taking responsibility for our big feelings and exploring the quest to become more emotionally elegant
 
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Feeling Your Feelings: 101

We're often encouraged to "feel our feelings" as a route to healing and greater self-awareness, but what does it even mean? And exactly how does one go about it?
This episode explores:
The difference between feelings and emotions
How to tease apart physical vs emotional sensations
Why sense-making gets in the way of us feeling feelings in our bodies
Ash's dating life, and how it feels - literally
And we leave you with a mini-challenge to try out in your own life, to work at becoming a better emotional connoisseur
Show notes:
“You Aren’t at the Mercy of Your Feelings—Your Brain Creates Them,” TED Talk by Lisa Feldman Barrett
“Mapping Emotions On The Body: Love Makes Us Warm All Over,” Michaeleen Doucleff, Dec. 30, 2013
100 Days of Rejection Therapy from Jia Jiang
Misattribution of Fear for Arousal (the scary bridge study), Dutton & Aron (1974)chrome-extension://efaidnbmnnnibpcajpcglclefindmkaj/https://sanlab.psych.ucla.edu/wp-content/uploads/sites/31/2016/03/Dutton-Aron-1974-arousal.pdf
Follow along with Daron's guided exercise, Emotional Meteorology: https://daronlarson.substack.com/p/emotional-meteorology
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Oversharing: It’s An Art

Why are we drawn to sharing our inner worlds, and is it more urgent and more complicated when you're neurotic?
This episode explores:
The urge to take our private journaling public
The personality types that have an easier time keeping it real
The benefits of spilling your guts online
If living mindfully is incongruent with doing it “for the plot”?
Performance anxiety - but the role is ‘acting human’
And we leave you with three key things to consider before sharing your inner world elsewhere
Show notes:
What Do I Know?: Essential Essays by Montaigne: https://www.amazon.com.au/What-Do-Know-Essential-Essays/dp/1782278818
Ash’s Thesis: https://hdl.handle.net/2123/32466
The appeal of “real” in parasocial interaction: The effect of self-disclosure on message acceptance via perceived authenticity and liking by Hye Soo Nah: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0747563222001522
'I was ashamed of myself when I realised life was a costume party and I attended with my real face' - Franz Kafka
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Emotionally "Unstable"? Who, Me?

This is Interfering Neurotic with me, Dr Ash King, and mindfulness coach, Daron Larson - where we navigate a life lived with the curses and blessings of big feelings.
Coming up, we explore: 
The reality show that is US politics and how we feel about it
The Big 5 Personality Test and what ingredients make for a neurotic individual
Art and creativity as a safe space for the emotional experience
The benefits of being more objective to our subjective experiences
And the pro’s and con’s of sharing our feelings and struggles with the wider world
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Show notes:
Educated - Tara Westover [Book]
How 'Poor Things' actor Emma Stone turns her anxiety into a 'superpower' [Interview with Terry Gross] https://www.npr.org/2024/03/08/1236564681/how-poor-things-actor-emma-stone-turns-her-anxiety-into-a-superpower
The Big 5 Personality Assessment https://www.idrlabs.com/big-five-subscales/test.php
Is neuroticism really bad for you? Dynamics in personality and limbic reactivity prior to, during and following real-life combat stress [Journal Article] https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2352289521000692
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How To Be Neurotic

Welcome to our first ep of Interfering Neurotic with Dr Ash King, and Daron Larson - where we navigate a life lived with the curses and blessings of big feelings. Together, we explore why we think, feel and act the ways we do (sometimes against our better judgement) and the deranged pursuits we embark upon to find ourselves, fix ourselves and keep fooling ourselves. 
 
In Episode 1, we tackle:
What to do when break ups leave us devolved to wet slimy slug-form
Recommendations for meditations and movies
What it means to be neurotic and the first moments in our lives we thought we might be
The nature of endurance and resilience in a world full of unknowns.
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Show notes:
Daron’s TEDTalk: https://youtu.be/Ze6t34_p-84?si=dTLDEQJ_g0Xddt0p
The Wonder (2022) Sebastián Lelio: https://boxd.it/v3uY
Loving Kindness With Self-Compassion. Kristin Neff https://insig.ht/r7J9wfOY4Nb
Friendliness Resistance Training. Daron Larson https://insig.ht/MoSjSRHY4Nb
The Big 5 Personality Assessment: https://www.idrlabs.com/big-five-subscales/test.php
“I can’t go on, I’ll go on” - Samuel Beckett
 
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Music by @nikitakarmen